Umm Habibah bint Abu Sufyan (Died 44 H)

In the course of his life, Umm Habibah much suffering and ordeal. After embracing Islam, she and her husband moved to Habasyah. There, it turns him an apostate from Islam and converted to Christianity. Her husband's alcoholism, and died not in Islam. In the silence of his life, Umm Habibah always filled with sadness and doubt because he was not able to get together with her own family and her husband's family in Mecca because they already keep him away. Does he have to stay and live in a foreign country until his death?



God will not allow His servant in constant grief. When he heard the suffering of Umm Habibah, the heart of the Prophet was very moved that he rnenikahinya and Umm Habibah no longer be in a prolonged sadness. This is in accordance with the word of God: The Prophet was more important than other people of faith, and his wives are the mothers of the believers.Umm Habibah privilege among the other wives of the Prophet is its position as the daughter of a leader of the idolaters who pioneered perientangan the propagation of the Prophet and the Muslims, Abu Sufyan.

Childhood and Nasab Growth

Umm Habibah was born thirteen years before Muhammad's prophethood Shalalahu 'alaihi Wassalam. the name Ramlah bint Shakhar ibn Harb bin Uinayyah son of Abdi Shams. His father was known as Abu Sufyan. His mother named Safia bint Abil Ashi bin Umayya ibn Abdi Shams, which is a friend of the Prophet's aunt, namely Uthman ibn Affan ra. Since small Umm Habibah known to have a strong personality, fluency in speaking, very intelligent, and very pretty.

Marriage, Hijrah, and suffering

When old enough to get married Ramlah, Ubaidullah bin Jahsh mempersunting- her, and Abu Sufyan was to marry them. Ubaidullah famous as a young man who firmly holds the axle Ibrahirn religion. He tried to stay away from booze and gambling, and promised to fight the pagan religion. Ramlah aware that he was married to someone who is not a pagan, does not like his people who make and worship statues. In his dalarn occurred desire to follow her husband's religion of IbrahimMeanwhile, in Mecca began to spread the news that Muhammad came to bring a new religion, the divine religions are different from the religion of the Quraish in general. Hearing the news, Ubaidullah heart stirred, then declared himself the new religion. He then asked his wife, Ramlah, to embrace Islam with him.

Hearing Muhammad's mission successfully and thrive, the people of Quraish declared war against the Muslims that the Prophet ordered the Muslims to emigrate to Habasyah. Among them are Ramlah and her husband, Ubaidullah bin Jahsh. After a while they were suffering such persecution, exile, even expulsion and family who continue to insist that they return to the ancestral religion. When it Ramlah was carrying her baby first. Arriving at Habasyah, Ramlah born babies who later named Habibah. Of the baby's name is then turned into a name Ramlah Umm Habibah.

As long as they are in Habasyah heard the news that the Muslims in Mecca and the number is growing stronger so they set out to return to their homeland. Meanwhile, Umm Habibah and her husband chose to settle in Habasyah. Along the way, the group of the Muslims who will return to Mecca at the news that the state of emergency still in Mecca and the idolaters increase the pressure and boycott against the Muslims. Finally they decided to return to Habasyah.

A few years living in Habasyah, the Muslims are expecting grief will be fleeting and ranks of the Muslims become strong, but the sadness is not depleted. Conditions that cause Ubaydillah have confidence that the Muslims will never be strong. It seems he was desperate so little by little his heart began leaning on Christianity, the religion of the Habasyah.

Umm Habibah said that he dreamed of something, "I saw my husband turned into the most ugly human form. I was surprised and said, 'By Allah, the situation has changed. "The next morning Ubaidullah said,' O Umm Habibah, I see no better religion than Christianity, and I have expressed myself to hug her. Once I embraced the religion of Muhammad, I would embrace Christianity. 'I said,' Has the thing that good for you? "Then I told him about the dream that I saw, but he did not care. Eventually he was constantly drinking that took his life. "

Thus, Islam Ubaidullah out and he had to move to Habasyah stake, with suffer, leaving hometown with his wife and small children. Ubaidullah was trying to persuade her to leave Islam, but his effort was in vain as Umm Habibah be established in Islam and hang on to it until her husband died. Umm Habibah feel isolated in the middle of the Muslims because they feel ashamed of kernurtadan her husband. For him there is no other choice but to return to Mecca, whereas parents, Abu Sufyan, being aggressively attacked the Prophet and kaurn Muslims. In such circumstances, Umm Habibah felt his house was no longer safe for him, while the family has meeninggalkan suarninya their homes for having joined the Prophet. Finally, he returned to Habasyah with dependents prolonged suffering and waiting for destiny of God.

Umm al-Mumineen Being  
Shalalahu Prophet 'alaihi Wassalam. constantly monitor the state of Muslims, not just who was in Mecca and Medina, but also that in Habasyah. When watching Habasyahlah he heard the story of Umm Habibah left Ubaidullah with the suffering endured over the years. Touched his heart and intend to marry her.

Umm Habibah tells dreams and gloomy life. He said, "In my sleep I saw someone see me and call me Ummul-Mumineen. I am surprised. Then I mentakwilkan that the Prophet would marry me. "She continued," It is I look after Iddah exhausted. Without me knowing Najasyi a messenger came to me and asked for permission, he was Abraha, a female slave in charge of washing and gives fragrant-haruman the king's clothes. He said, 'the King said to you,' Messenger of Allah sent me a letter that I marry you with him. "I replied, 'Allah gives you glad tidings to bring good." He said again, "King told you appoint a guardian to be rnengawinkanmu'. I appoint Khalid bin Said bin Ash as my guardian, then I gave Abraha two silver bracelets, anklets in my feet, and a silver ring in my toes on my excitement because it carries news. "Umm Habibah back and Habasyah-associated Syarahbil bin Harikusumo by bringing gifts of Najasyi, King Habasyah.

News Umm Habibah marriage with the Prophet is a blow to Abu Sufyan. About it, Ibn Abbas narrated the word of God, "May God give rise to compassion among the people who you enmity between them. ... "(Qur'an Al-Mumtahina: 7). This verse was revealed when the Prophet Shalalahu 'alaihi Wassalam. married Umm Habibah bint Abi Sufyan.

Living together Messenger Shalalahu 'alaihi Wassalam
Rasululullah Shalalahu 'alaihi Wassalam. sent Amr bin Umayya to Habasyah with two tasks, namely update the immigrants to return to their country (Medina) because the already strong position of the Muslims as well as to propose Umm Habibah to the Prophet. On the way back to Medina kernenangan they heard the news of the Muslims over the Jews of Khaibar. The joy they felt it was in Medina because their brother had returned and Habasyah. Prophet welcomed them back with joy, especially with the arrival of Umm Habibah. He called Umm Habibah to dalarn house, which when it bersarnaan also by his marriage with the daughter Safia Huyay bin Akhtab, the daughter of one of the leaders of the captive Jews of Khaibar Islamic army. When the Prophet mernbebaskan and marry her. The wives of the Prophet others welcomed the arrival of Umm Habibah with warmth and respect, in contrast to their reception to Safia.

Umm Habibah life journey in the middle of the family of the Prophet is not much conflict between his wife or invite anger. In addition, there is also a history that tells the behavior of Umm Habibah that shows jealousy.

Difficult Position
We mentioned above about Umm Habibah privileged position among the wives of the Prophet. His father was a leader of the polytheists when Umm Habibah received the light of faith, and he faced difficulties when they have to explain it to her parents beliefs.

The Quraish had reneged on their agreement signed in Hudaybiyah signs along the Messenger. They attacked and massacred Bani Qazaah that has bound protection agreement with the Muslims. To anticipate it, the Prophet took the initiative invade Mecca in which the family lived Abu Sufyan and Umm Habibah. The Quraish of Mecca had thought that the Muslims will attack them in retaliation for the slaughter of Bani Qazaah they do. They already know the troop strength of the Muslims so that they choose the path of peace. Diutuslah known as Abu Sufyan and his intelligence capabilities in diplomacy to make peace with the Prophet.

Arriving in Medina, Abu Sufyan indirectly to the Messenger, but first rnenemui Umm Habibah and her daughter trying rnemperalat behalf. Umm Habibah how shocked when her father wrapped around him after so many years had not seen since she moved to Habasyah. This is where the firmness of faith and love seem Umm Habibah the Messenger. Abu Sufyan realized astonishment and confusion of his daughter, so he does not speak. Finally, Abu Sufyan came into the room and sat down on the mat. Seeing it, Umm Habibah immediately folded mat (bed) so it is not occupied by Abu Sufyan. Abu Sufyan was very disappointed to see the attitude of his daughter, then said, "Do you fold the mat, so that I do not sit on it or rnenyingkirkannya me?" Umm Habibah said, "This mat is the cushion of the Prophet, while you are Pagans are unclean. I do not like you sit on it. "Then Abu Sufyan came home with a feeling of unexpected heavy blow of his daughter. He felt that his efforts to thwart the attack kaurn Muslims to Mecca has failed. Umm Habibah was aware of what was going to happen. He sure will come when Muslim forces invaded Mecca in dalarnnya are family, but that she remembers only the Messenger. He prayed for the Muslims in order rnemperoleh victory.

God allowed the Muslims to Mecca mernbebaskan. Prophet of Islam along with thousands of soldiers entered Mecca. Abu Sufyan felt himself already besieged tens of thousands of soldiers. He felt that the time has come for the Muslims reply demeanor during this persecute and oppress them. Prophet very sorry and asked her to convert to Islam. Abu Sufyan menerrna the invitation and expressed his Islam with humility. Abbas, the Prophet's uncle, Abu Sufyan asked him to respect that he felt flattered by his greatness. Abbas said, "Verily Abu Sufyan was a very liked exalted." Here, behold the intelligence and wisdom of the Prophet. He replied, "Anyone who enters the house of Abu Sufyan, he will be saved. He who closes his door, he was going to survive. And those who entered the Haram, he will be saved. "That honor the greatness of one's Messenger, and Allah has given a good solution to eliminate grief Umm Habibah with Islamic father.

End of a Journey
After the Prophet Shalalahu 'alaihi Wassalam. died, Umm Habibah live alone in her house only to worship and draw closer to Allaah. In the event of major slander upon the death of Uthman ibn Affan, he did not side with anyone. Even when his brother, Mu'awiya ibn Abu Sufyan, in power, the least he did not try to take the opportunity to occupy a certain position. He also never insinuated Ali pass word when feuding with his brother. He also narrated the hadith of the Prophet which many later narrated back by friends. Among hadith transmission was: "I heard the Messenger of Allah said,"Anyone who prays twelve rak'ahs day and night, Allah will build for him a house in Paradise. 'Umm Habibah said," Truly I tidakpernah leave setelab I heard from the Messenger Shalalahu' alaihi Wasallam. "(Reported by Muslim)

Umm Habibah died in the 44th move dalarn age of seventy years. His body was buried in Baqi 'with his wives of the Prophet others. May God give him honor at his side and place it in the appropriate place blessed. Amen.

Source:
- Book Dzaujatur-Prophet, Joseph Amr work, Publisher Darus-Sa'abu, Riyadh.